26A Celebrating Failure

During this past semester, I have been trying to stand up for myself more. I have failed numerous amounts of times at work try to make people take me seriously.

Here is some background information about myself:

- I am easy going

- I have a hard time saying no

- I let people make fun of me and pick on me

- I am often told that I let people push me around

- I am a people-pleaser

A good example of this is when coworkers think it is okay to jokingly blame me for someone else’s incident or situation and my bosses take them seriously and I have to try to clear my name because I am easy to target. I tend to get nervous and nervously laugh when I am being picked on. Its hard when people don’t take you seriously. It makes me think that people don’t respect me. What I have learned is that people take you more seriously when nipping situations in the butt from the start. Being a “closer” at a restaurant, other servers will take advantage if you a lackadaisical persona. I am not lackadaisical; however, I fear that people see me as a pushover and will half-ass their side work thinking that I will just do it for them.

In my opinion, failure is how people learn and develop new ideas. Everyone makes mistakes, but everyone learns from their mistakes, some just later than others. I handled this issue by tightening up how I handle situations and standing up for myself when people try to mess with me. Unfortunately, this class did not really pertain to this failure; however, this class has made me more open to taking risks and putting myself out into the business world.